Bumping Into Walls

“Growth is painful. Change is painful. But, nothing is as painful as staying stuck where you do not belong.”

— N. R. Narayana Murthy

I’m a Black woman with big dreams.

I want more out of life.

But I’ve been stuck behind an invisible wall.

I’ve seen others push through their stagnation.

With support.

With resources.

With help.

And while I have love and encouragement…

I still felt stuck.

Motherhood plays a role.

Sometimes it’s a reason.

Sometimes it’s an excuse.

But either way, it affects how we move.

I realized something:

My stagnation came from my lack of focus.

I gave up.

Not because I wanted to—but because life felt overwhelming.

And when you lose focus, you start losing confidence.

You feel unworthy.

You feel stuck.

But one day, I decided:

I don’t have to choose between life and my dreams.

I can do both.

It’s not easy.

But it’s possible.

My advice?

Pause.

Identify the problem.

Find a new way forward.

And don’t dim your light before it has a chance to shine.