In this reflective post, I explore the patterns in my relationships and why I tend to attract the wrong type of people. Looking back, I realized my struggles with people-pleasing and allowing myself to be mistreated stemmed from unfinished moments from my childhood. Growing up with my father, I always sought guidance and validation from him, but when he was incarcerated, I felt abandoned and left to navigate life alone. This feeling of unfinished business translated into my adult relationships, where I continuously tried to fix things with people who weren’t willing to change. Through this self-reflection, I’ve learned to own my choices, set boundaries, and pave my own path toward healthier relationships.

Why do people start arguments? It’s a curious behavior, especially for someone like me who avoids confrontation and finds it a waste of time. Recently, I listened to a caller on The Bert Show who admitted to starting fights with her husband to avoid going out with him. Her reason? She was ready to act single while still married. This left me baffled and laughing, but it also raised a deeper question about respect and honesty in relationships. If you’re unhappy, end the relationship respectfully—don’t create drama or pretend to be single. Temporary distractions can cost more than they’re worth.

Here’s a selection of holiday movies that will bring festive cheer to your screen. From family dramas like The Business of Christmas and its sequel to feel-good romances like Someday at Christmas, this list has something for everyone. Highlights include the laugh-out-loud Soul Santa, the heartwarming A Jenkins Family Christmas, and the musically vibrant Miracles Across 125th Street. Whether you’re in the mood for holiday magic, romance, or laughs, these films streaming on BET, VH1, and TV One will make your season brighter. Happy Holidays!

For years, I avoided Christmas movies, but my sister’s excitement finally convinced me to give them a try in 2020—and I’m so glad I did! From the dramedy The Christmas Lottery to the heartwarming Throwback Holiday, and the delightful Chandler family series (Marry Me for Christmas, Marry Us for Christmas, and more), my holiday movie journey is packed with laughs, love, and festive charm. Dive into my list and discover your next holiday favorite!

Pride can be both a shield and a stumbling block. Reflecting on my journey, I’ve realized how excessive independence kept me from seeking help and fully embracing opportunities. While I valued self-reliance, it often came at the cost of personal growth and meaningful connections. Breaking free from the grip of pride has shown me the importance of vulnerability and the strength in accepting support.

In this reflective post, I share my journey through the unexpected loss of my Georgia mama and the lessons I’ve learned about patience and resilience. Despite the challenges, including balancing family life and navigating a turbulent world, I’ve come to realize that life doesn’t follow a clear roadmap. We all experience moments of uncertainty, but by embracing individuality and practicing patience, we can find peace and growth. I also share my thoughts on the pandemic, personal choices, and the complexities of leadership during uncertain times.

Adulting is tough, especially with the rising costs of living. From higher rent and utility bills to the increasing price of everyday items like avocados, inflation is making life feel more burdensome. In this post, I reflect on the struggles of managing expenses while staying positive and adaptable in the face of uncertainty. Despite the challenges, I share how to keep a hopeful mindset and focus on creating the life you want, even as prices continue to rise.