Adulting Blah Blah

My head keeps circling around one idea:

I have allowed pride to keep me from my destiny.

This thought keeps repeating itself, and I need to release it.

I have been an independent person for many years. At first, I only had to take care of myself. Then life evolved—family, children, relationships—and my responsibilities grew.

But my independence grew with it.

And honestly?

It got the best of me.

I had an unorthodox upbringing, and because of that, I made a decision early on:

I would always take care of myself.

Especially financially.

So as an adult, when I faced challenges, I relied on myself to fix them.

Unless I was extremely desperate, I did not ask for help.

And that mindset has cost me.

Even though I value independence, I now see how it became a hindrance.

There were times I prioritized others’ needs over my own.

Not because I cared about how I looked—but because I cared about being dependable.

I take pride in being reliable.

In showing up.

In helping others.

But in doing that…

I neglected my own reality.

And that’s where the problem began.

I’ve learned something important:

Asking for help is not weakness.

Accepting support is not failure.

Receiving what you deserve is not selfish.

For a long time, I believed otherwise.

I heard messages like:

• People don’t like helping others

• Support always comes with strings attached

• Independence is the only safe way

And those thoughts held me back.

No matter how much I tried to stay positive…

Pride remained.

And even a small amount of pride can block progress.

So now?

I’m working on it.

I’m learning to release that pride.

To accept help when it’s offered.

To recognize that strength isn’t about doing everything alone.

If you’re like me—strong, independent, and used to handling everything on your own…

Let’s learn together.

Because independence is not the problem.

But when it silences your need for help?

That’s where it becomes one.