Pride Is Debilitating

I keep circling back to one thought:

I allowed pride to interfere with my destiny.

This realization has been on repeat in my mind, and I needed to release it.

I’ve been independent for most of my life. At first, I only had to take care of myself. As life evolved, so did my responsibilities—children, relationships, family.

But my independence grew into something else.

Because of my upbringing, I made a decision early on:

I would always take care of myself.

Especially financially.

So when challenges came, I relied solely on myself.

Unless I was extremely desperate, I didn’t ask for help.

And that mindset has cost me.

There were times I prioritized others’ needs over my own.

Not because I cared about appearances—but because I cared about being reliable.

I take pride in helping others.

In being dependable.

But in doing that…

I neglected myself.

I’ve learned something important:

Asking for help is not weakness.

Receiving support is not failure.

Accepting what you deserve is not selfish.

But for a long time, I believed the opposite.

I heard things like:

• People don’t like to help

• Support always comes with conditions

• Independence is safer

Those thoughts held me back.

Even with a positive mindset, pride still created barriers.

So now?

I’m working through it.

I’m learning to accept support.

To release the idea that I have to do everything alone.

Because independence is not the problem.

But when it keeps you from asking for help…

That’s when it becomes one.